26 Jan 2013
Hurtful words in a relationship can be like a drop of red dye in a glass of water that turns the whole glass pink. What starts out as a slip of tongue, a small slight from one person to another, sets a process in motion that slowly (or quickly) permeates a relationship and begins to define its tone. It’s easy to think criticism is a...
18 Jan 2013
I attended a lecture recently by Robert Ketchell, a lifetime practitioner of Japanese gardening. I was immediately captivated by his opening statement that gardening is an underrated skill with vast implications for healing our relationships with each other and the planet. He then went on to outline the principles of Japanese gardening that can be adapted to Western gardens, such as arranging empty space, using...
16 Jan 2013
There is a moment in “300” – a movie about the fabled battle of Thermopylae in which 300 Spartans hold off a marauding Persian army of 300,000 – when the King of Sparta (Gerard Butler, handsome even in a cape) turns to his gorgeous, passionately intelligent bride (Lena Headey) who, with a barely perceptible nod of her head, gives him her approval to push the...
14 Jan 2013
Trust me, I know how busy your life as a married couples can be. With work, family, extracurricular activities, exercise, kids, cooking, household chores and all of the other tasks we have to complete each day, it seems like there’s no time for anything else.
09 Jan 2013
Shazam. Do you ever get a feeling you are going to hit it off with someone just from a picture? When I saw Pete’s profile pic – head atilt, eyes flashing out from underneath a Red Sox cap – I somehow knew that we’d get on just fine. Reading through what he had written, I even allowed myself to get a little excited. Age appropriate,...
04 Jan 2013
Watch my video: 3 Ways to Increase Your Love Quotient and Receive More Love When I first met my now husband Noah, who I affectionately refer to as “Walking Love” for his great ability to give love fully and freely, my love quotient – my capacity for receiving love — was the size of a pea. Which meant that although I had finally manifested a...
28 Dec 2012
Even with the best of intentions, during the holidays we can fall into a mechanical default mode of making our lists, decorating and baking as a chore, rushing around, and shopping joylessly. When the experience of the season feels like a task-oriented mental function, or even a stress frenzy, we lose out on all the potential joy of it. Half the gift of giving is...
26 Dec 2012
On Friday, Lauren* switches the photos up on my online dating profile, thinking that the picture of me in a leather jacket is giving a certain contingent of high-living Harley riders the wrong idea. “We need to make you look more expensive, Lady Bug.” She also tells me that I am not to respond to any of the incoming messages until she has a chance...
24 Dec 2012
While the holidays are advertised to bring us cheer, joy and gifts, what many of us end up with is a rack full of stress, guilt and debt. Why? First, we listen more to the negative holiday voices in our head – a.k.a. the Inner Grinch — telling us to buy more, eat more, visit more and do more – even though we’re already stretched...
21 Dec 2012
“Open the window in the center of your chest, and let spirit fly in and out.” — Rumi, 13th century mystic poet The holiday season is considered the season of love. But the question is, Are you feeling it?