It’s Okay to Love Your Ex
11 Mar 2013

It’s Okay to Love Your Ex

It’s okay to love your Ex.

In fact, it’s probably impossible to stop loving the ones we’ve loved and cared for. However, you do need to stop obsessing about them and finally accept that they are long gone, not coming back, and it’s time to forgive and let go.

To stop obsessing requires discipline. It’s like breaking a bad habit. Decide that you will give yourself only 5 minutes each day to think about them – set a time each day and for that 5 minutes get out your journal and write down all of your thoughts about them. Then, when you catch yourself thinking, dreaming, or yearning for them, remind yourself that it’s not time yet to think about them.

Discipline yourself to only think about them for the allotted 5 minutes each day.

Next, find a little corner of your heart to place your love for them in, and when you catch yourself thinking about them, remember to put them back into that little place and focus on the heart traits and delicious qualities of your soon-to-be met NEW soulmate.

Decide that whatever destiny or karma you once had with your Ex is now complete and give yourself the gift of moving on to someone that deserves you.

Ask yourself these questions:

What are the traits and qualities my heart most desires in a soulmate?

How do I want feel when I am with them? What will our life together be like?

Becoming laser clear about who this person is, what they’re like, and MOST IMPORTANTLY what you will FEEL like when you’re with them, is essential to your success in manifesting your soulmate.

Once you figure this out, and actually integrate this into the core of your being, you will be well on your way to new love.

Don’t spend a minute wishing you had done any of this sooner, if you could have, you would have. Remember to leave room for divine timing and also be grateful that you are now open and available for the love you’ve always desired.


Arielle Ford



Arielle Ford

Co-creator & host of The Art of Love Relationship Series, bestselling author of The Soulmate Secret and Wabi Sabi Love, as well as the creator of The Soulmate Secret 5-Week Online Course.